The Trap of Score Keeping in Life

"Comparison is the thief of joy"-Theodore Roosevelt 

In today's modern society, comparison is at the forefront of everyday life and is more present then every before through social media and an increasing materialism obsession. Here's what society's not telling us. This obsession. This innate drive to "be the best". This game of "score keeping" is taking its toll on the mental and emotional health of many families.

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The Problem? Many individuals are unaware of this comparison "habit" and continue to feel empty, stressed, unworthy, and unhappy in life.

What's even scarier?  Score Keeping can come in many forms including but not limited to:

  • Relationships

  • Jobs + Careers

  • Materialism

  • "Success"

  • Social Media

  • Body Image

  • Marriage

  • Friends

  • Other Moms

The Effects of "Score Keeping": Individuals who continually measure their lives and relationships to others will never be fulfilled. Consistently wanting what others have (this can be their relationships, marriage, jobs, "status", cars, body, etc) leaves no room for growth and nourishment in ones life. Score Keeping in life can cause feelings of:

  • Jealousy

  • Bitterness

  • Resentment

  • Depression

  • Anxiety

  • Obsession

  • Status Driven

  • Guilt

  • Sinful Behavior

  • And More

If we're so busy looking at others, how can we work on ourselves?

As women, we must learn to practice using our skills of "self-awareness". No, this is NOT common in today's society. But, you're #blossomingmommyandbaby women and we're changing the WORLD, one healthy woman at a time. We're different and we're driven to be the change. So, what's the solution? Read on, Babe!

The Solution: 

  • First and foremost, we MUST understand that life is a gift. It's truly a gift from the Lord. He knows your path and your calling in this life. Embrace this, ladies. Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord. Plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope". We must stand still on HIS word, knowing that our story is not anyone elses'. Keep your eyes on Him and His calling on your family.

  • Celebrate with others! Instead of feeling jealous, envious, or upset about a friend's achievements, celebrate with and for them! Life is far too short not to. Built others up on their way to celebrate and let them know how wonderful their skills are and encourage them to use their platform to glorify our Father!

  • Keep your eyes on your family. Each family, each individual, each mother has their own story. There's no sense in comparing your chapter 20 to a chapter 40. Ya feel me? You don't know their story, their struggles, their victories.

  • Focus your energy and time on what matters most---- YOUR LIFE.

It is only when we learn to develop these skills of self-awareness, that true emotional wellbeing and freedom of "score keeping" will be released! I'm proud of you, ladies. Keep your eyes on your road and let's continue to work towards healthy emotional habits.

PS- Make sure you listen to this article (+more lessons!) in audio form here! 

xoxo,

~Jennifer