Struggling With Mental Health? You’re STILL A Good Mom!
How is your mental health, Momma? If you feel like you’re struggling here, you’re not alone. A recent study from The Maven Clinic stated that over 50% of new Moms surveyed didn’t receive adequate mental health care or support that she needed. Source
Wow! As a mom and occupational therapist, these stats make my heart heavy because I know the impact it’s having on moms and families! This is why I am so passionate about mental health and helping YOU navigate your journey so you can get back to feeling great and more in control of your thoughts and emotions.
Before I became a Mom and during my first postpartum period, I wrestled with a dark season of panic and anxiety attacks. Postpartum anxiety hit me hard and out of nowhere, and for the first 3 months of my son’s life, I wasn’t sure I was cut out to do this whole motherhood thing. Thankfully, after a few tough months and a whole lot of work, my mindset and motherhood changed forever!
Momma, if you’re here now, hear my heart when I say that even if you are struggling with mental health, YOU ARE STILL AN AMAZING MOM! I’ve worked with thousands of Moms around the world and over the years have concluded that mental health and motherhood is WAY more common than you think. Some of the most common reasons I’ve seen moms struggle boil down to these main struggles (disclaimer: this is my list.. Not an official study or advice from your doctor.. Just the opinion of Jen over here! ;) ):
We wear too many hats and feel an insane amount of pressure to perform
Haven’t dealt with things of the past
Magic “Fix” Belief (This is my way of saying that believing a special planner, meditation class, or the latest health trend is going to magically “fix” your mental health.) Sorry, not the case!!
Sweet Momma, it’s time to….
Stop judging yourself.
Stop being so hard on yourself.
Stop wishing you were someone or something else
God created you just the way you are, so honor that beautiful blessing and take charge of your thought process and emotions!
So, my question for you is this…. What are you supposed to do when you feel like you’re stuck in a mental pit? You know I’ve got you, girlfriend! Just follow these 3 steps:
Identify HOW you’re feeling.
How can you expect to change any behavior if you don’t know how you’re feeling? It’s important to understand and implement the practice of knowing how your mind and soul are feeling throughout the day. It’s much easier to forget, stuff, or ignore these feelings (especially if they’re painful), which is why it’s going to take extra effort on your part to stay disciplined! Get in the habit of listing out your emotions and feelings on a regular basis (i.e. fear, angry, anxious, sad, loneliness, out of control, guilt, etc), so you can get in the habit of practicing GOOD self-awareness and all while setting the building blocks for your healing process (because remember, you can’t fix what you don’t know)!
Identify WHAT has worked and WHAT hasn’t worked in the past.
Once you’ve listed out HOW you’re feeling, now it’s time to start figuring out your healing process. Take time to first list out all of the things you’ve done in the past that haven’t worked well for you (things like alcohol, drugs, Netflix binges, poor friend choices, escaping, impulsive spending, sleeping it off, etc). Then, once you’ve made a list of all the things you’ve tried in the past that didn’t work for you, start making a list of all of the things that did help.
Some of my best suggestions are:
Seeking professional help from your healthcare provider
Medication (if necessary)
Learning behavior about the mind
Remember, it’s about doing MORE of what works for you and LESS of what doesn’t so you can create a compound effect in your life and in your mind!
Remember that no matter what, you’re still a great Mom!
It’s so easy to be hard on ourselves as Mothers. Remember to give yourself time, patience, and grace in moving forward, friend! You’re going to have good days and bad days, so having the daily practice and self-discipline to keep yourself on track is key to your mental success!
You are not defined by your past or current struggles. Your daily actions and decisions to move forward in life are the foundation for your lasting change. And remember, Momma! Your kids need you to be your healthiest so you can be the healthy, happy, and stable Mom they long for you to be!
Sweet Momma, I know it can be SO overwhelming to manage your emotions and thought patterns. The pressure society places on you to be happy and perfect (all the time) is causing more stress, more anxiousness, and more mental health conditions then ever before. I, too, was once where you’re at, overwhelmed with my mind and emotions and truthfully, I didn’t know where to turn for help. After struggling with years of intense anxiety attacks, panic attacks, and postpartum anxiety, I was determined to learn the tools I needed to master my mind, emotions, and mental health. This is why I created The Moms and Mental Health Program, an online, action-packed video course filled with the tools and strategies you need to master your mind, emotions, and mental health. Learn more and start your journey HERE!
Rooting for you always, Momma!
Come share with me over on your INSTA stories(tag @blossomingmommyandbaby) what your biggest takeaways were from today’s post!
Did you know that it’s OK to make your mental health a priority?
That’s right, Momma, your mental health is important and something that should remain in a status of “work-in-progress”, because we will always benefit from growth in this area of our health.
That’s why I created the Momma’s Mental Health E-course.
In this course you will learn how to conquer this area of you health and continue to sharpen and grow your mental health tools in order to withstand any curve-ball or difficult season to come!
You don’t have to do this alone, momma! I got you!