What I Learned Trying To Conceive After Infertility

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I have been dying to share this news with you, sweet friends! If you haven’t heard yet, we are officially trying for baby Blossom #2! Being a Mom is the hardest yet most rewarding job in the world and having a big family has always been a dream of mine. In a perfect world, I’d love to have 3-4 of our own, biological children and adopt at least 1 child.

I have just one sister (Jessi) and growing up, we both wished we had more siblings! Honestly, I think this is why I’m so passionate about creating my own big family!

The family dinners, game nights, camping trips, vacations, late night bonfires, cousin sleepovers, soccer games, birthday parties… I mean, y’all- this is what motherhood is all about and friends, I’d be lying if I wasn’t nervous about trying to grow our family.

Many of you know our story, but if you don’t, Brian (my husband) and I struggled with infertility for 2.5 years. Thankfully, we never had to go through expensive treatments like IUIs or IVFs and instead just had a hormone treatment which got us pregnant right away a with our firstborn, Brody.

As we gear up for growing our family again, I find myself wondering what will be in store for baby #2… will we be able to get pregnant naturally? Will I have to go back on hormone meds? Will we need a more extensive intervention?

The future for all of us is unknown and if there’s anything I’ve learned from this life experience it’s these 3 things:

Everything works out the way it’s supposed to.

Not knowing how everything is going to play out is one of life’s greatest adventures. I feel confident as we walk into our next unknown season in trusting the process, enjoying the journey, and not being so focused on the final destination that I miss out on the daily blessings that are around me. I could choose to be anxious, stressed, and play the “what if” game, but what good would that do? Would any of these approaches change the outcome of our reality? NOPE. So I don’t go there and you shouldn’t either.

Take the right steps to optimize fertility

As an occupational therapy practitioner, I teach my patients on a regular basis how important self advocacy is when it comes to your health. Well Momma, the same goes for your fertility. If you’re embarking on this journey now, don’t forget how much power you have when it comes to optimizing your fertility. When you know the right foods to eat, how to eliminate toxic ingredients from your home and environment, how to properly manage and decrease stress in your life, and how to track your optimal fertility windows… you’ll be working WITH your body instead of against it. In fact, when you do the work at home and then work hand in hand with your doctor, healthcare provider, or fertility specialist, you are increasing your chance for conception and a healthy pregnancy experience!

Be on the same team as your spouse 

It’s really easy to walk through a wilderness season and put pressure or blame on another person..… especially if that person is your husband. When it comes to Trying to grow your family, no matter what the circumstances are, remember that you and your husband are walking together. This approach to oneness can be difficult if either of you have an underlying condition that is  contributing to infertility, so it’s crucial for you to recognize the importance of being on the same team instead of reverting to isolation, anger, or resentment.

I remember feeling SO upset and disappointed with myself and my body because I was the one who was causing the struggles on our infertility journey. I blamed myself. I carried the burden. I walked with shame. And I slowly began to isolate myself and my feelings from my hubby. Friend, this is no way to walk through infertility.

When Brian and I recognized this unhealthy pattern, we immediately got to work on becoming a TEAM, knowing that no matter what, we were  going to get through this season together and that approach, my friends changed everything.

So friend, remember this, everything is going to work out the way it is supposed to. I know that sentence is obnoxious to hear but when we can truly grasp this truth, we will learn to embrace and enjoy the journey instead of trying to control the outcome.

Please let me know over on instagram what your thoughts are on today’s message and how your journey is going! I also had a great conversation on infertility with my friend Caroline Harris of In Due Time on this podcast episode! I know you’ll love it!

XO,
Jen

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