How to Control your Emotions If You Feel Like an Angry Mom

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I posted a poll on Instagram last week asking you Mommas to share the struggles you are walking through within your motherhood journey…... AND RESULTS SHOW that an overwhelming amount of need help controlling your anger and emotions within your #momlife!

I am so happy you ladies feel so safe here at BMAB and are able to pull back the curtains on REAL ISSUES because you guys…. this is how we truly change the face of motherhood!

The 4 simple tips I will be sharing with you today are meant to help you create a more mindful and meaningful approach to your Motherhood! Remember, none of us are perfect and we should never strive for perfection. Instead, I encourage you to take these tips to heart and to continue to work towards becoming the exceptional mom that I know you are!

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Stop putting so much pressure on yourself and your kids! 

We live in a society that expects us to be perfect. To have the perfect home. To have the perfect parties. To have the perfect love note in every school lunch…. and dare I say to have the perfectly behaved children?…….(if that’s the case, then I better not tell you about my weekly experience trying to sit through a church service with a one year old ;) )

Instead of chasing the endless trap of perfectionism, scale back. All the pressure you’re putting on yourself and your children is causing more stress in your (and your kids’!) life. Sit down with your husband and discuss what’s realistic for your family in this season. Then, set rules and boundaries and do your best to implement them each day! REMEMBER to be realistic. You can’t expect your kids to have a good attitude all day, every day. Do you do this? I know I sure don’t! So bottom line is to think about the expectations you have on your children and yourself and (like your parent’s always told you….) just do your best!

Be consistent! 

Once you determine what the boundaries are going be for your family, it’s then YOUR job to be persistent, consistent and to follow through with your rules and expectations. Whether our children admit it or not, kids crave consistency and NEED structure which ultimately is found in your parenting approach and will be one of the cornerstones in strengthening and sharpening your children’s character…. yes, even as a toddler! If you’re struggling on a daily basis to get everyone on the same page, consider helpful tools like ALERT charts, visual schedules, visual timers, or even a token system! To continue the conversation on helpful tools like this, be sure to hop on over to our BMAB Facebook group here!  

Don’t discipline out of anger! 

There is a huge difference in disciplining with love and disciplining with anger. When you lose control of yourself and find yourself flying of the handles, screaming at your children, you are doing NO ONE any benefit. If this is you, Momma please know that NOW is the perfect time to recognize this behavior and to work hard to change it! {If you need EXTRA help with your mind and managing your emotions, I highly encourage you to enroll in Grounded + Glowing!}

Remember, as the mom, it is your job to facilitate healthy, age-apprpropriate behavior and coping strategies for your kiddos! If you are out of control with your emotions, how can you expect your kids to be in control of their emotions? Start paying attention to your emotions and if you feel yourself starting to spiral out of control, try taking three deep breaths and think about what the root issue is that you are trying to teach for correct. Don’t be afraid to apologize to your children if you are in the wrong. I believe there is something to be said about that humility that we express as moms. It’s OK to express your emotions as long as they are manageable and appropriate!

Sharpen your skills as a mother 

The main reason I created the BMAB community is to help moms like yourself truly create a meaningful motherhood. I believe that we as Mommas are the heartbeat of our home and we should always be taking time to grow ourselves personally, constantly keeping our cup FULL so we can in return be of life to our children and those around us, pouring into them on a regular basis!

Take a reflection into your heart right now and ask yourself if you’re feeling depleted in any of the following areas: nutrition, fitness, emotional + spiritual health, and homemaking. I truly believe that when one or more of these areas are dry, it can negatively impact how you show up for yourself and your family!  {If you’re feeling dry- come fill back up, Momma! I’ll teach you all my secrets inside my signature method, Blossom After Baby}

Momma, I hope that you are inspired to look deep into how you parent and choose to parent out of love, not anger! You CAN gain control over your emotions and I am here for you every step of the way! Please let me know in the comments or over on Instagram how you plan to implement these tips and if there is any way I can help you further!

XOXO,
Jen

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