Perfectionism vs. Excellence

Hi there, beautiful Momma!

Perfectionism. It’s kind of a thing right now in our culture, wouldn’t you agree? We live in a pinterest driven, perfectly staged instagram era and if we’re not careful, this false sense of perfectionism can (and will) ruin your motherhood.

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As you’re reading this take a step back and look at your life from a bird’s eye view. Have you fallen into the trap society has casted out to be perfect? Do you feel like you have to have the perfect home with the spotless floors? The perfectly paired outfit? Kids dressed to the nine? A smile plastered to your face because you can’t ever have an “off” day?

Mommas, I say this honestly because I see too many of you struggling to obtain “perfect” in your motherhood, when in all honesty, perfect doesn’t exist and you’re going to do some serious damage to your health~ emotionally, spiritually, and physically if you continue on this hamster wheel of trying to obtain perfectionism.

When you continually strive to be “perfect”, you’ll be more prone to compete, compare, judge, and criticize other Moms and yourself throughout your motherhood journey. Ladies, this is NO way to live and truly is an ugly, endless (and angry!) trap!

Here’s what I want you to do instead….. (and IMA just be bold and say it….. ;) )

Leave perfectionism at the door and instead strive to be the EXCEPTIONAL MOTHER YOU WERE MEANT TO BE!

There’s a HUGE different between perfectionism and excellence and it truly comes down to your  MINDSET!

So, here’s your gameplan:

  1. Get it out of your head that you have to be perfect. You don’t and when you can get rid of this burdened thought to be perfect, you’ll literally lift 1,000 pounds off your chest. Hallelujah!!

  2. Determine what your priorities are! Wouldn’t it be awesome to live your life in alignment with what’s most important to you and your family??! Guess what Momma! You CAN!! So do it! When you shift your focus on what truly matters (like cultivating healthy relationships with your children, having a home cooked meal, snuggling in and reading a bedtime story, saying prayers together as a family, working out and eating well because you HONOR your body…. instead of: mindlessly scrolling on social media, freaking out over messy floors, stalking Jane’s outfit and new car in the pickup line………), you forget about the little things that don’t matter AND are causing you stress and anxiousness.

  3. Ask yourself what matters at the end of your life. Seriously~ this question is BOLD but it’s the truth and you girls know I speak the truth! At the end of your life are you REALLY going to care about strangers on social media who you compare your life to OR are you going to cherish the loving relationships that you tended to and cared for?? You see… perspective!

  4. Lastly… remember that you are not FAILING! You are a GREAT MOM. It’s easy to think that we don’t measure up… but you DO! When you can see yourself as the care tender of your home and know that when you are taking care of yourself~physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally…. INSTEAD OF STRIVING FOR PERFECTIONISM… you’ll truly discover what it’s like to be the exceptional Momma you’ve been all along!

 

Mommas, your kids need you to be a Mom who loves herself, her home, and of course.. her children! If you put more value on “killing yourself” to be the perfect Mom instead of enjoying all the blessings that God has given you, then it’s time to rethink and realign your priorities (just go through the steps listed above!)

You are patient. Fun. Calm. Grounded. Still. Slow. Emotionally + Spiritually in tune to what your children (and husband) need.

You are NOT failing.

You’ve got this Momma and I’m here for you, cheering you on EVERY STEP OF THE WAY.

Remember, day by day. One thought, one action at a time :)

Love you lots! Now tell me! How will you be applying these tips today to your life and motherhood journey?? Let me know in the comments below or over on Instagram! If this blog post was helpful, please pass along and share with a friend!

XOXO,

Jen